Day 92 / 108 Challenge

#92

"I bow to hope for peace in everything around me."

The feelings still linger, but I came to realization that I felt sad, because I lost the opportunity or the future I would have had with her. This does not mean that it is the end of the world.

Sure, the time I would have had in the future with her could have been great (also not) but that does not mean that the other possibility of my future is not going to be great either. Why suffer too long for losing something I did not even have? Over something that could not have been real in the first place?

We give meanings to our past, present, and the future and when any of it differs from our ideal version, we feel let down. But we must not feel let down too much from the things we cannot control. For example, other human beings are outside our control. We cannot control the life of other people. We could be meeting the love of our life tomorrow, but they may leave this earth the next day, also. Nothing will last forever, and we must be ready to detach ourselves which will free us from unnecessarily extended suffering.

Of course it is a difficult mindset to keep 24/7, but we must be constantly aware that we must be free of suffering caused by the things that we cannot control, or by the things that we put meaning into.

When we reflect on the people we lost, the pain may come from the "good memories" we had with them. As far as we know, going back in time is impossible, and those events as themselves had no meaning. WE put extra layer of our perception on top of them which made it "good" in the first place. Once we take that layer off, and look at the events as is, we should be able to minimize the "I miss those good time" feeling.

The pain can also come from the fact that we can no longer have those good memories with them. But having those people share experiences with us are not in our control. THEY get to decide. THEY may not exist forever. So why set ourselves up for disappointment, especially when we have no control over other people's actions? Once we come to acceptance with the fact that there are things we cannot control, we should not let any feelings arise from them dictate our happiness.

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Challenge Log

Requirements
No Snacks No drinks or desserts exceeding weekly limit	No snacks
Water intake (max 2L)	1.5L
2x Pomodoro flows (read min. 10 pages)	Housing market
Productive activity (write a journal or a blog; create a product)	Journalling
Physical activity (min. 45 minutes)	LEG DAY 1. Deadlift 315lb 2-2-1-1 2. Reverse lunge squat 175lb 4x3 (10s rest super sets below) 3A. Front & side DB lunge 25lb 4x6 3B. Rear delt DB raise 25lb 4x6 4A. Jump 1.5 squat 4x6 4B. Arnold press 25lb 4x6 5. 3s eccentric leg raise + 30s boat hold 3x10
Wildcard (any 1 of read/produce/exercise above)	(EXERCISE) More outdoor walk

What I am thankful for today

++ I am thankful to have a healthy mindset that got me through today. A lot of good realizations came out of the introspection.

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