Day 46 / 108 Challenge

#46

"I bow to learn to be nice to people, even if I have negative feelings toward them."

My first day of needing to prep the house before leaving is turning into the last day. Today was the big offer day for my current place on sale, and a very strong offer came in the evening, which I accepted. There is one less thing to worry about now in terms of my real estate investment. If I learned anything from this, it does not hurt to prepare for all scenarios, but always stay positive. The universe will grant you what you need in the end.

I had an interesting conversation with a coworker today, and I promised us that I would write about it here too.

We were talking about how to find a right partner, and this is what my point of view was. It started off as how often we should reply back, since he thinks the girl lost interest in him because he ignored her for couple months (and yes, I told him that was way too long of a wait). My first half of the answer is when you are free, but this has an extremely important assumption. That you are a busy man.

A lot of dating coach or pick up artists tell clients to take time to respond back. I find this as a temporary solution (a good one, though), because it will be tough for people who clearly have hard time getting girl's interest to follow along. For example, they might even fumble by going too distant with girls. Essentially, what needs to happen is that people need to become better men. Internet calls them high value men. These better men are trying to leave a dent in this world daily by doing what other successful/important people do. These men are generally busy bettering themselves and the world, they cannot be available to answer messages 24/7. And of course, girls find these men very attractive. Hence, my first answer being, whenever you are free (given that you are already busy improving yourself).

The second half of the answer is that you must care about improving relationship with the girl you want. Meaning, you have to put effort into replying to her. This is to prevent you from accidentally going too distant as you tend to focus too much on your business or goals. I always remind myself that I must spend quality time with people I love in order to maintain and better the relationship I have with them. Of course, I am completely fine being on my own, but having a partner and people that care about me is important to me, and I must include that into my life mission as well. Or even as part of being a better me. How can I become a better friend? How can I become a better partner? Sometimes I may have to put aside my study or business deals, because people I care about (that also care about me - very important) needs me.

When men can harmonize these two aspects, they will have no problem attracting the girl they want (and keep her).

Thanks to my conversation with the coworker, I have a self reflection piece to write about today. I hope this helps whoever is struggling with similar problems. Remember - in order to attract great people, you must be a great person first.

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Challenge Log

Requirements
No Snacks No drinks or desserts exceeding weekly limit	No Snacks
Water intake (max 2L)	2L
2x Pomodoro flows (read min. 10 pages)	All chapters review
Productive activity (write a journal or a blog; create a product)	Journalling
Physical activity (min. 45 minutes)	LEG DAY 1. Hex bar deadlift 315lb 4-5-5-5 2. Reverse lunge squat 155lb 4x5 3A. Front & side lunge 45lb 4x4 3B. Rear delt raise 25lb 4x8 4A. 1.5 jump squat BW 4x8 4B. Arnold press 30lb 4x8 5. Hanging leg raise 5s hold + 30s boat hold 3x10
Wildcard (any 1 of read/produce/exercise above)	(PRODUCE) Daily Market Digest

Should've/Would've/Could've

-- Proud of you for what you did today. You could have studied a little more though.

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