Day 44 / 108 Challenge
- New Man
- Feb 19, 2024
- 3 min read
"I bow to avoid making foolish mistakes out of ignorance."
Full disclosure, I am posting this about 8 hours late. The day was filled with actions.
In the morning, I enjoyed some steam room and hot tub time as soon as I woke up. Then I headed to the office to heat up my breakfast. I wanted to unload some of my luggages early at home, so when I checkout of a hotel and return to home I would have less to carry. However, closer to being home I realized I left my keys in the hotel. Not to worry though, because I have lockbox for all the house showings. I initially approached the security by being nice and asking for a favour, but he was not cooperating at all. I had to switch to being more assertive, so I could do what I needed to do before people started showing up for the house showing. After going back and forth few times, I got the keys.
I am reflecting on this a lot, because I wanted to think if that was the right choice. Was I being too pushy? Was that the best way to handle the situation? These were the thoughts going through my mind this morning.
My conclusion is, yes, that was the best way to handle it.
First, I opened up with a warm feeling, and asked him nicely to see if he could do me a favour. Looking at what happened in the end, we both realized that we could have saved each other tough feelings and 10 minutes of our lives if he just did what I asked him to do.
Second, sometimes you need to be assertive to make things happen. Anything is possible (especially in this level of complexity in the scenario), and the issue is whether both parties agree on pursuing or not.
** This part of self improvement is new to me, but I am very proud of how far I have come. If it was me last year, I would have just given up and had the inconvenience negatively affect my day. However, after going through challenges, and having to learn to navigate through obstacles in life, I am stronger than ever. This is by far the most noticeable improvement (as a man) at this time of my life.
Lastly, I ran possible scenarios in my head that would have avoided asking for the key in the lockbox. If I had enough time I would have gone back to the hotel and grabbed the key. The fact that I thought about alternatives before going through with the necessary friction makes me believe that it was the right choice.
There are of course things that I could have done better. 1) I should have brought the keys with me. 2) I should have built better relationship with the security staff, so they are more lenient.
After all this, I played some indoor golf with my friends, and I made sure I got some studying in so that I can spend the rest of the day fully with my girlfriend. And man, am I glad that I did so. Initially, I thought we just needed to grab few party supplies, but it turned into multi-hour crafting session to create some backdrop for the photo booth.
As much crafting was painful was it was, blood and sweat (and possibly some tears) have gone into this, it was accomplishing looking at the end result. Plus, we got some good outdoor walks in and spent quality time together. The activity itself means very little to me compared to the fact that we are in the same space doing something together.
The only downside was that I missed my journalling after all this, but there will always be room for improvement in my life anyways. Still I am very content with the way I live my life these days, and I cannot wait to see the kind of person I become after continuing these practices. I genuinely feel that I am becoming a better person every day.
Challenge Log
Should've/Would've/Could've
-- Proud of you for what you did today. You could have written a journal as soon as you got back to the hotel after date night.
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